SCRIPT PACK
When motivation dips
You: “I noticed the books stayed closed today. What felt heavy?”
The why: Acknowledges the struggle and invites honesty without accusation.
When marks slip
You: “I’m not here to shout. Let’s choose one small fix we can back you on this week. What would help?”
The why: Moves the conversation from punishment to problem solving.
When anxiety spikes
You: “Your nervous system thinks you’re in danger. Let’s do two deep breaths and then write the first step together.”
The why: Validates the physical response, then grounds them in action.
When effort goes unnoticed
You: “I saw you leave the phone in the kitchen all evening. That focus matters. What can we remove tomorrow to keep that momentum?”
The why: Recognises discipline and reinforces the behaviour.
When conflict flares
You: “We’re both upset. I’m going to take a walk and we’ll finish this talk in 20 minutes. Text me if you think of a solution before then.”
The why: Models emotional regulation and sets a reconnection time.
Keep these scripts on your phone. Over time you’ll adapt the wording, but the tone—curious, calm, collaborative—should stay.